Recounting Our Sorrows: Tisha B’Av Service

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Kavanot (intentions): to grieve for the losses that have happened in our lives, the events which took place to alter our entire future, and to give ourselves the permission not to forget, but instead, to let go.

The Calamities of Tisha B’Av

• The twelve spies sent by Moses to observe the land of Canaan returned from their mission. Only two of the spies, Joshua and Caleb, brought a positive report, while the others spoke disparagingly about the land. The majority report caused the Children of Israel to cry, panic and despair of ever entering the “Promised Land”. For this, they were punished by God that their generation would not enter the land. Because of the Israelites’ lack of faith, God decreed that for all generations this date would become one of crying and misfortune for their descendants. (See Numbers Ch. 13)
• The First Temple built by King Solomon and the Kingdom of Judah was destroyed by the Babylonians, led by Nebuchadnezzar in 586 BCE (3175 AM) after the siege in 587. The Judaeans were sent into the Babylonian exile.
• The Second Temple built by Ezra and Nehemiah was destroyed by the Romans in August 70 CE (3830 AM), scattering the people of Judea and commencing the Jewish exile from the Holy Land. According to the Talmud in tractate Ta’anit, the destruction of the Second Temple began on the Ninth of Av and the Temple continued to burn throughout the Tenth of Av.
• The Romans crushed Bar Kokhba’s revolt and destroyed the city of Betar, killing over 100,000 Jews, on July 8, 132 CE (Av 9, 3892 AM)
• Following the Bar Kokhba revolt, Roman commander Turnus Rufus plowed the site of the Temple and the surrounding area, in 133 CE
• The First Crusade officially commenced on August 15, 1096 (Av 9, 4856 AM), killing 10,000 Jews in its first month and destroying Jewish communities in France and the Rhineland
• Jews were expelled from England on July 25, 1290 (Av 9, 5050 AM)
• Jews were expelled from Spain on July 31, 1492 (Av 8-9, 5252 AM)
• On August 1, 1914 (Av 9, 5674 AM), World War I broke out, causing unprecedented devastation across Europe and set the stage for World War II and the Holocaust
• On the eve of Tisha B’Av 5702 (July 23, 1942), the mass deportation began of Jews from the Warsaw Ghetto, en route to Treblinka

Lamentations 1:1 How doth the city sit solitary, that was full of people! How is she become as a widow! She that was great among the nations, and princess among the provinces, how is she become tributary! {S} 2 She weepeth sore in the night, and her tears are on her cheeks; she hath none to comfort her among all her lovers; all her friends have dealt treacherously with her, they are become her enemies. {S} 3 Judah is gone into exile because of affliction, and because of great servitude; she dwelleth among the nations, she findeth no rest; all her pursuers overtook her within the straits. {S} 4 The ways of Zion do mourn, because none come to the solemn assembly; all her gates are desolate, her priests sigh; her virgins are afflicted, and she herself is in bitterness. {S} 5 Her adversaries are become the head, her enemies are at ease; for the LORD hath afflicted her for the multitude of her transgressions; her young children are gone into captivity before the adversary. {S}
6 And gone is from the daughter of Zion all her splendour; her princes are become like harts that find no pasture, and they are gone without strength before the pursuer. {S} 7 Jerusalem remembereth in the days of her affliction and of her anguish all her treasures that she had from the days of old; now that her people fall by the hand of the adversary, and none doth help her, the adversaries have seen her, they have mocked at her desolations. {S} 8 Jerusalem hath grievously sinned, therefore she is become as one unclean; all that honoured her despise her, because they have seen her nakedness; she herself also sigheth, and turneth backward. {S} 9 Her filthiness was in her skirts, she was not mindful of her end; therefore is she come down wonderfully, she hath no comforter. ‘Behold, O LORD, my affliction, for the enemy hath magnified himself.’ {S} 10 The adversary hath spread out his hand upon all her treasures; for she hath seen that the heathen are entered into her sanctuary, concerning whom Thou didst command that they should not enter into Thy congregation. {S} 11 All her people sigh, they seek bread; they have given their pleasant things for food to refresh the soul. ‘See, O LORD, and behold, how abject I am become.’ {S} 12 ‘Let it not come unto you, all ye that pass by! Behold, and see if there be any pain like unto my pain, which is done unto me, wherewith the LORD hath afflicted me in the day of His fierce anger. {S} 13 From on high hath He sent fire into my bones, and it prevaileth against them; He hath spread a net for my feet, He hath turned me back; He hath made me desolate and faint all the day. {S} 14 The yoke of my transgressions is impressed by His hand; they are knit together, they are come up upon my neck; He hath made my strength to fail; the Lord hath delivered me into their hands, against whom I am not able to stand. {S} 15 The Lord hath set at nought all my mighty men in the midst of me; He hath called a solemn assembly against me to crush my young men; the Lord hath trodden as in a winepress the virgin the daughter of Judah.’ {S} 16 ‘For these things I weep; mine eye, mine eye runneth down with water; because the comforter is far from me, even he that should refresh my soul; my children are desolate, because the enemy hath prevailed.’ {S} 17 Zion spreadeth forth her hands; there is none to comfort her; the LORD hath commanded concerning Jacob, that they that are round about him should be his adversaries; Jerusalem is among them as one unclean. {S} 18 ‘The LORD is righteous; for I have rebelled against His word; hear, I pray you, all ye peoples, and behold my pain: my virgins and my young men are gone into captivity. {S} 19 I called for my lovers, but they deceived me; my priests and mine elders perished in the city, while they sought them food to refresh their souls. {S} 20 Behold, O LORD, for I am in distress, mine inwards burn; my heart is turned within me, for I have grievously rebelled. Abroad the sword bereaveth, at home there is the like of death. {S} 21 They have heard that I sigh, there is none to comfort me; all mine enemies have heard of my trouble, and are glad, for Thou hast done it; Thou wilt bring the day that Thou hast proclaimed, and they shall be like unto me. {S} 22 Let all their wickedness come before Thee; and do unto them, as Thou hast done unto me for all my transgressions; for my sighs are many and my heart is faint.’

Tisha B’Av Lamentations/Prayer Requests
• Please pray that I can stop doing harm to myself.
• For perspective, greater esteem of self, and compassion rather than judgement.
• I grieve for the loss of my childhood. and all the things i cannot say.
• For any and all mistakes I made or am making as a wife, mother, and grandmother, I ask for guidance to do better, and forgiveness for those things I have done or am doing that are hurtful and damaging.
• My mother has been in a nursing home for about the last 8 years and most recently it’s been tough to visit her because she has dementia (she doesn’t remember short-term things very well) and our conversations go in one direction. I wish to give up my fear that prevents me from going.
• This is for Tisha B’Av. My father died years ago. His passing caused a rift in my family that I have tried hard to heal but to no avail. I mourn the scattering of my family and pray that we will somehow find our way back to each other.
• I need help to find the forgiveness and let go of resentment and anger of how my family mom and brother who I raised since I was 15 (8 years) could just exile and dump me out of the family like a piece of trash thrown to the curb, and told specifically I was not worth breathing on this planet as regular people
• Healing physically, emotionally and spiritually. Freedom to live and believe. Clarity and courage to move foward.
• I would like to be able to tell the people in my family who have died that I love them. I grieve because I don’t know if I’m going to meet them on the other side at my own death. I grieve because at this late part of my life I have not yet attracted my mate to come into my life on his own.
• My wife died of cancer when she was 21. I was young, too, and sometimes thoughtless, selfish. That was a a long time ago, but I hope she knew how much I love her every day, still. I hope her soul has found the Shechina
• For Tisha B’Av, I hope I can find the strength to continue fighting against my mental illness and become the person I want to be. I hope I can start to find my own peace and spirituality and no longer feel broken.
• Prayer requested that I may return to my Jewish faith and be welcomed back into the community.
Past Prayer Requests
• My sister has a broken collar bone from an accident and has to have a rod put in her shoulder
• I would like my 88-year-old friend Tony to not suffer or be in pain while he is nearing the end of his life from liver disease. I also want him to not feel unhappy about being unable to walk or get out of his bed area. I would like to not feel so exhausted and worn out due to my taking care of Tony full time. A child in my neighborhood has run away from home.Have her return safely.
• I pray for release from depression and anxiety and the hopes that I can find fulfillment in what I want to do and get the means to do it.
• Please pray for my depression & anxiety to subside to allow me peace & to let me function properly at my job.
• Please pray for the success of the search and rescue effort for my friend’s brother and his climbing partner. They are days late in returning from a climb in South America, in an area where an avalanche was reported. Please pray for their swift and safe return.
• Please pray for parnassah (success in jobs) for Shoshana Tamar bat Rivka Raizel and Ephraim HaLevi ben Rivka
• Please pray for a friend of my friend who got into an accident and has a collapsed lung.
• My best friend’s daughter is getting married in two weeks. Please pray that all goes smoothly and that they have a joyous and healthy relationship.
• Please pray for my mother, Nance, who has just lost her job, and my stepdad, Norman, who is having troubling health problems.
• Can you please pray for my husband Francis to come back home to his wife and kids. He walked out and its been very hard for me. I have said some mean things to him like he has someone else. Its just has been so hard not having my husband home with us. I need pray that God will do a miracle in,my family. I ask for forgiveness for my sins and I pray that God see’s that I will be a good wife to Francis. I dont want any other man. God put us together and let no,man split us apart. Please pray for us.
• Please pray for my grandpa, Glenn. He is 91 years old. He has lost control of his bladder and his bowels and his feet won’t stop swelling. He can no longer walk. The doc said it’s pretty much up to him on living or dying, but he is starting to give up. Please pray for him to be at peace and in no pain as he continues his journey in his life.
• Please pray for Alex, a dear friend, who has gone into hospital for iv treatment of an upper respiratory infection. Alex has multiple sclerosis, and is fragile.
• Please pray for Cece that her time in prison passes as quickly, peacefully and painlessly as possible and that her life will be good once she is released from prison and back into the arms of her community.
• Please pray for my father in law, Zalman ben Moshe, he is recovering from hip replacement and has contracted Pneumonia.
• For healing of my relationships with my daughters, Rachel and Elisheva bat Hannah-Miriam
For healing or gentle passing – Chayah Yocheved Bat Feggie
For healing from anxiety – Miriam bat Miriam
For parnassa and G!d’s guidance in her daily – Hannah-Miriam
For the strength to face the oncoming dementia in her partner – Judith
• Healing for chronic depression. In gratitude
• Tzipporah Ximena-Rose bat Chanah. Pray for this 3 # 11 oz baby and her birth mother that the ultimate good may be reached…even if this means the birth mother resends consent.
• A prayer that this intense depression lessens soon.
• My father died. Today, Sunday, June 24, 2012, he has departed to Mexico City for his journey to an unknown village, to me, for his final resting place.
• My finance’s have come to a standstill, I seem to be blocked from selling my business property, my new sales job in Insurance is up & down and now just down! Not even sure how to buy gas to do sales let alone pay my daily bill’s! I ask God for guidance and seem to be blocked or maybe I just don’t understand! God Please Help Me!
• My mother in-law has Alzheimer’s disease and is suffering tremendously from the paranoia that comes with this. I ask for you to help me pray to G-d that her confusion subsides to, at lease, a manageable level.
• Please pray for healing for me. I am dealing with a bad flare of Ulcerative Colitis. Thank you. B”H and L’Shalom, Yochanan ben Zalman
• My friend has her bet din for conversion today.
• I am praying for a miracle cure for my severe gum recession and for my three back teeth. If this is not God’s will, then at least halt the recession permanently, do not let the gums bleed or thin out, forever stop any more shifting and/or loosening and/or spacing of my teeth, let there be no tooth decay and no recurrence of the gum disease. (I had periodentitis.) As far as the back teeth are concerned, I fervently pray that the worst-case scenario with them is that they require refilling. One of these teeth is almost all filling with just this thin strip of real tooth on the side. I pray that if it is needed, my dentist is able to refill that tooth. I am begging God that I do not lose a single tooth and that my teeth do not get all funny looking and sticking out. I also am begging God it costs me nothing to not that much money in order for me to be able to keep all my teeth. Amen.
• I have a close friend who is prison for a crime he didn’t commit. He has been there for 7 years and is appealing his case and has a good chance of being set free but it could take up to 4yrs to do so.
• Prayer request for a young mother, Amber Mason Ohio,who is having a terrible time with a sciatic nerve condition.
• I pray that the longing to join others subsides.
• Please pray for the safe return and healing of a schizophrenic son, who has been missing for four months.
• Please pray for my boyfriend that he will gain strength and pass his exam.
• Please pray for my father’s speedy recovery and strength for my family
• Please pray for my step-son Yarrow that he will find the strength to overcome his drug habit
• Please pray for my friend to have strength while his friend is in the hospital
• Physical and emotional healing…for the pain in my neck to be gone…for the court appointment to go well…for my Beshert to appear…for my travels to happen-to go safely and prosper abroad…for me to go about what I need to do with the foreclosure.
• I need a prayer over my school work and getting good grades and I’ve just been having a hard time with this week one of my classmate killed herself and i just been having a rough week this week.
• Pray for Paige Young
• Refuah shleimah for Spencer Miller son of Michael Miller and Tonya Miller
• Please pray for our friend who is having a spinal tap soon
• My good friend Libby… she went in for routine hysterectomy…they sent her home… she was back in a few days … they had nicked her colon… we almost lost her… she is now in her 3rd week of being in the hospital…. a teacher of gifted students….. we are scared….
• Anthony is battling prostate cancer that has metastasized to his bone. He might be going threugh his third bout of chemo. Please pray for him that this disease is taken out of his beautiful body, never to return.
• Please pray for T’s nightmares to go away and a full restoration of health: mind, body and spirit. Amen.
• My cousin Nicole Diane Keithley daughter of Melissa Kay Justice-Keithley and Elvis Keithley
• I´m going through my convertion process, I don´t know if to convert online or to wait until I get at Canada and find a sinagogue there.. Please, also pray for my love ones who pass away, my Grandmother, Edithe Springer, and my Grandfather, Ruben Reynaldo Cluff, who raised me as his grand son.
• Please remember my brother, John Donadio, in your prayers. He was diagnosed with Cancer and is currently undergoing chemo and radiation. He is only 46, and is married with three children. Thank you.
• The Marine Base where my husband works is going through some hard times. Please pray that Allen keeps his job and pray that Eliana gets the career she wants going.
• Please GOD bless me with my marriage to my love with our parents blessings and happiness. Please GOD you are my last hope . Please GOD make my love successful. Please don’t let me down . Please GOD also bless all other people on this earth who pray you and have faith in you .
• Please pray that I will be able to do all the things that I need to do in the best way possible for everyone.
• Please pray for my cousin Elijah Ben Avraham’s quick recovery he was just diagnosed with cancer. And for me that HS grant me more wisdom as I continue to seek G-d’s direction for my life.
• I live by myself and I’m lonely. I need prayer for more friends and a mate.
• Please, pray that our Lord God strength the relationship between Dejan M. and me! That any barriers between us will be removed permanently and that we may have a lifetime of happpiness and love together! That God help Dejan M. to make distance from people who enjoy in the destroying of relationships. Thank you for all your prayers. May God bless you always! Katarina from Belgrade in Serbia
• My sister has cancer an shes been goin through alot they said that shes on stage 4 an her cancer has spread an they said that the kemo has stoped working but she still is doin it an i would like you to pray for her to b healed her whole body so she can b here to see her family an her grandkids grow up her name is gloria
• My stepfather Russ Lee just found out that he is undergoing a degeneration of his c-spine and it’s serious. Please pray for him. It may not be reversible but hopefully he will go as long as possible before he is unable to do the things he likes to do.
• My favorite (well, my only, but he likes it when I say he’s my fave) son has been having some incredible troubles with life lately and…he came to his mama. And…I learned that at 6’3″+ and 25 years old, he is absolutely still my little boy… Please, my beloved community, pray that he is able to get through this rough patch with as much loving support as he needs and will accept.
• Please pray for my dad whose had diareah for 3 months and no appetite thank u
• L Greksa – in Colorado, suffering from cancer.
• Please pray for my father, Robert, who has stage 4 lung cancer. Please let him not feel pain or fear.
• Please pray for Marlene Linz who is battling breast cancer.
• Please, pray for my Mom – who recently had a heart surgery – to recover quickly. Thank you! ♥
• Prayer for Sam Brown Shmuel Ben Yudit. He is a 44 year old dad, husband and great guy just diagnosed with stage four cancer very unexpectedly.
• Please pray for Toni. She needs a little push on her project. If her project works then other will benefit from it.
• Pray for John and Jane. Thank you.
• Please pray for the health of Ahava Lilith HaKohenet Bat Shoshana v’Shalom v’Avram
• Pray my son follows through with rehab, that he remains strong and couragous.
• Pray for the company I am working for and the Jewish people in general.
• Please pray for my mother, Melanie. She is testing positive for cancer again.
• Sandra Daughter To Hannah, Tall Jewish Loving Husband 45-57yrs old, Clarity Joy Protection Honesty, Love Love and Love. Hashem is Good
• My family are strangers one to the other. Please pray that they reunite in goodness and in health. Blessed Be.
• Please pray for my healing from depression, health issues and chronic pain. Also my very old cat. We have to make a decision about possibly putting her down. Things just look so dark right now, but I know the dawn will come. Baruch HaShem
• I need love in my life. I need to be accepted and respected in life and in my job. I don’t want to be alone anymore. I want to share my life with friends, family and community. I pray for the health of my father and for Marilyn who is dealing with cancer.
• For me to find my beshert this new year please.
• Please pray for all of my friends I know and those I don’t, that there is one day a cure for arteriovenous malformations. This is a rare beast of a disease and I want my friends well.
• Friends, please pray for the health of my son N, and for strength to overcome recent diversity. Pray he will find and keep G-d in his heart!
• Batia bat Mira (health…has lymphoma), Bracha Chana Bat Baia (in coma), Shulamit bat Dina (finds shuddich), Shachne Ben Moshe & David Ben Shmuel: Success in new endeavors/parnasa
• Please pray for the father of my children to find his way back to himself, and his children & me.
• Please pray for Stu that his next scan is cancer free, pancreatic cancer is a tough one. Thank you.
• Please pray that my oldest daughter finds her bshert very soon, please pray that my son continues with therapy until he is done, please pray that he finds a wonderful career, and his bshert soon, please pray that my youngest daughter finds a great job soon and meets her bshert.. Thank you
• Can you please pray for the healing and safe recovery of my partner, Andrew. He is going into surgery tonight to stop a spinal fluid leak. Also, my prayers and thoughts are with all who have posted.
• Please pray that my oldest child finds her beshert in the very near future. please pray that my son recovers completely and decides on career. Please pray that my youngest finds good job and is happy.
• I would like to ask everyone to keep Kael in your thoughts and prayers. He is a little boy, the son of a dear friend and he has been in the hospital for the last couple days with unexplained seizures.
• Please pray for Mark and Sheila. Mark lost his job and now is looking to open his own food truck. Please pray for Mark and Sheila’s success.
• Please pray that my oldest child finds a wonderful beshert now. Please pray that my daughters and son will find their beshert in the next year. Please pray that my son becomes happy again and remove his anxiety. Please pray that my son finds a great career. Please pray that my daughter gets a good job.please pray that they have good health. Thank you
• My prayer request is for guidance. I am tentatively seeking to convert, but find myself constantly pressured against it by my Christian peers.
• I have a huge prayer request. A friend, who is 32, is dying of a brain tumor. Very little time left. This girl makes Job look like a prize winner. She’s lost two children, her husband left her when he found out she had the tumor. Her mother had a heart attack today and has a DNR. My friend is suffering deep in her heart right now. I’m asking for prayers for her and her family…for strength and comfort.
• Please pray that we will be able to encourage the hearts and minds of others to move toward positive action and that G-d will bless the work that we are doing with all the resources to improve the lives of others exponentially. May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart find your favor.
• Please pray for my mom, and for me, in her illness. She’s a good person who has had a hard life. I’m all she’s got, and I hope your prayers will lift me and give me strength to help her in this difficult time.
• I am requesting prayer for depression, anxiety, and chronic pain issues to be healed. I need the Shalom of HaShem. Thank you.
• My prayer is for my self to find my bashert.
• I’m just had surgery this morning to repair the area where I had a feeding tube in place for five years. Hashem has allowed me to thrive without the feeding tube since January, so now I need tefilos that I can heal well and live without the area to relieve pressure in my stomach. Please daven for Aliza Chana bas Leah.
• Please pray for my husband of 31 years that the cancer will leave his body and he will be healed and well again. Thank you.
• Pray for my brother who has an irregular heart beat and has to undergo a procedure to shock his heart back into shape. His heart is skipping a beat…and not in the good way
• please pray for me as a brain tumor will need surgery in a few weeks andd I’m getting increased seizure activity.
Baruch Hashem.
• Please pray for my father. He needs to understand that he does have inner strength and that he is not powerless. G-d is on his side. I don’t think he knows that.
• Please pray for Aisha to draw up her courage and strength to let me fully into heart and gve her the desire to share our intimate feelings. Give me the patience, love and courage to put my whole heart and soul into our relationship and please help me draw up my full strength
• Please pray for my mom she has financial problems and my dad to get a job. Me to catch up with my school work and work hard to get distictions
• Please pray for my father who is having medical problems.
• My prayer is for myself and all the people I love and care about. Plz Hashem give us all the love, fortune and happiness we deserve!
• Please pray for me to have strength and energy as I recover from spinal surgery. Please pray for me to catch up with my school work and my job obligations. Please pray for me to meet other people and make new friends soon.
• Please pray for my son’s father to find his way around his anger towards me and to find his way to communicate and be physically and emotionally with his son.
• Could you pray for peace of mind and contentment for me
• Please pray for me. My family and I are trying to decide where to relocate and it is causing a lot of heartbreak.
• Kindly pray for E.V., K.K., N.S. to soon find their way back to enjoyment of life, health, and success. Thank you!
• A prayer for financial security for myself and my partner while we are in school.
• That I may be granted a speedy conversion to judaism and begin a new life as a member of the people.
• “Prayers are needed for more business, sustained income and reduction of debt.”
• a prayer for someone who seeks an orthodox conversion–having done a reform and subsequent conservative one
• A prayer for someone about their conversion
• “My son is estranged from our family. Please pray for him to find his way home.”

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